How Are You Raising Your Children Today?
By Dionna Sanchez
"American Idol"(R) is one of my favorite television shows. Maybe it's the dreamer in me who likes seeing someone's dreams come true. Maybe it's
because I love music and like to sing to my favorite tunes. Or maybe it's just because I enjoy watching people.
But I have been fascinated as I have been watching this show at the sense of entitlement people have. When these young men and women are having their auditions, it is simply astounding to me to see the sense of conceit, ignorance, rudeness, and lack of humility in most of them. The majority of these young people can't hold a tune - but they audition anyways because that is how badly they want "stardom" and "fame!" At any price. Is it because they don't feel worthwhile being just who they are?
When these men and women audition, if they are told they can't sing, many of them stand there in utter disbelief. (I personally find it very hard to believe that they didn't already internally know this). They think they are cooler if they "tell off" the judges.
I don't know about you, but I was raised in a generation that respected those in authority. Telling someone off was never considered much less attempted. I was encouraged to believe in myself and have confidence -but not to the point of conceit!
I think these young men and women feel so entitled to what they want because it is a "me-generation". That is all they know! And it's our fault. We have given them everything they asked for. Coddled them, enabled them, told off the world if any harm ever came to our baby John or Julie. Instead of just guiding them in a healthy way with love, respect, and warmth. Holding them when they got hurt but letting them learn, grow, and be better for it.
How are you raising your children today? Are you equipping them to stand on their own two feet - to know their strengths and enhance them, to learn to love their flaws and weaknesses? Or are you enabling them and pampering them to the extent that your child won't know how to make it in the world if they don't get what they want? That they will feel the world has wronged them and be confused, frustrated and inept to handle it?
Those are serious, crucial issues that you need to look internally to solve. Loving our children sometimes means our heart must break a little when we discipline, correct and mold them - so that they will fly and flourish later on.
I don't know about you, but I'd much rather make the tough decisions now, than stand by and watch my children waste their potential and their lives when they could have been so much more.
~ Dionna Sanchez raises her children in Idaho. She shares her heart with other moms to encourage and inspire them. Visit her website today at
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